So, my Son’s mother writes to me and says:
Juli Vandiver: Hey Jhef. I’m wondering if there is any way I can possibly get that cat picture back. I know that your mom and you for some reason decided that she should keep it, but it has meaning and value for me and I would really love to have it again. Can we please make that happen?*
So I try to explain to her that by placing an accusation within a request… “I know that your mom and you for some reason decided that she should keep it,” that she is harboring spite and animosity… you can fool yourself into saying I mean you no harm, but thoughts become words and words become action… and her words stating she knows that something is true which was absolutely NOT true is a statement to her state of mind.
Another example is:
Thursday at 9:48am · · · See Wall-to-Wall
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Emanuel Shajhef Quinton: I live in Louisiana now… good ol Leesville… birthplace of Joseph Quinton
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Juli Vandiver: Actually he was born in DeRidder22 hours ago · -
Emanuel Shajhef Quinton: I know where he was born silly… my bad for writing in incomplete sentences.
Let me rephrase it. “I live in Louisiana, birthplace of Joseph Quinton. Right now I live in Leesville LA
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It breaks my heart to see all that animosity welling up inside her… I bet she wants to tell me a good piece of her mind. I don’t understand how I could have created such torment in the hearts of my ex’s that they just would rather I be laying on the side of the road with my guts laying out.
One friend told me that it is because I place more attention into my craft than into my relationships. I suppose my logic sees it as, I am faithful, I am devoted I work hard and I can be trusted to protect my family. The way I was raised I thought that was all you needed to be a great husband and father… … …
I know it’s my own fault for creating the situation that caused these women to despise me, and I know that by changing my core values and walking a path closer to divinity that I have cured my past mistakes, … still it is a test of conviction to have your past whipping its bladed tongues at you.
So, I sigh… I am saddened that after many years some of my ex’s still view me as Lucifer… and I can not change a person’s feelings… or their minds… because those two are contingent upon their belief system. And if you re-read my ex’s words, you can see quite clearly that she BELIEVES by stating that she KNOWS that for some reason I kept a painting of hers that she most treasured.
Well, I hope you readers are getting a glimmer of how your beliefs can cloud your judgment. It forces you to choose to see only the things that reinforce your beliefs. So unless what you believe is love trust and understanding… then you will likely see more negativity in others.
cool post!